How to Approach a Lady
How to Approach a Lady
Deep in the very core of every man, behind all the quest for success and relevance, there is a deep-seated need to know how to successfully approach a lady. Understand this; approaching a woman can be a very nerve-wracking task, especially if you’re in public, and lack the experience in approaching women. It gets even worse if you find her really attractive. However, you might be making it harder for yourself than it really is. Here, let me make it easy for you.
Confidence is one of the things, women find most attractive in men; that strong show of masculinity. The simplest kind of confidence you need when approaching a lady is to walk tall. Stand straight and have a manly gait, this works even if you’re not confident. So just be a man. And if you sincerely are not, then fake it until you make it.
Don’t waste time thinking about it
Trust me, the more time you waste the more unsure you’ll be. Stop wondering if she noticed you, she did. And even if she didn’t, just gather yourself and walk over to her. Sooner is always better than later. Another benefit of making your move immediately is that it reduces the natural tendency to over think it. All you have to do is open a conversation man, get her interested and wanting to talk to you more.
A good conversation, for a lady, is a way to form an opinion and build a connection. Pay attention to her, and as you listen, ensure to have follow ups handy. It will make the conversation flow. Think about it this way; you’re not trying to get her to fall in love with you immediately. You’re trying to get her to want to continue talking to you. It usually helps to start conversations with a playful no-content banter. Body language is also very important, it’s best to be by her side and talk to her over your shoulder. This is a more natural way of talking to her, rather than facing her dead on like when you’re talking to your guy friend or the “job interview” style most men use when they approach women.
Getting her contact
After you’ve gotten her interested, especially if you’re in a public place, you might want to get her number or email fast. Tell her you need her number so that the two of you can get together sometime. Try not to be too needy, or arrogant for that matter, a simple “Can I have your number?” should be sufficient.
A lot of men find it hard to deal with rejection but remember: You’re never going to win the lottery without buying a ticket. You need to keep in mind that women don’t always reject men directly, they sometimes feel uncomfortable about rolling out a hard “No”. You have to be sensitive to any signal that she’s not interested, read her nonverbal cues; is she crossing her arms or tapping her feet on the floor? Approaching her shows you’re interested in her, you don’t have to overemphasize it with unnecessary persistence. Your day is filled with a lot of other choices.
And lastly, ensure to forget your fails. Truth is you will fail, a lot of times, but notice how you get better and more comfortable every time you try. For many men, the fear of rejection is their biggest obstacle, and here is a really easy way to get that fear behind you.
Walk into a bar where there are lots of girls, really classy ones, you know, the ones even your dad would never believe you could score and approach every single one with the cheesiest line you can possibly think of, the idea, rejection….After going around, and hitting rock bottom, you can only go up from here… good luck.