Friends with 'benefits': why seek a person's wallet instead of his face

Last night i gave a gift to an old colleague and she was sort of amazed at the gift and couldn't believe someone made such a gift for her, yet later i realized she wasn't amazed at me for doing that nor appreciated me, that old colleague just took the gift but not me... It is like the people following Jesus for the fishes and loaves, but not for Him. We rarely seek someone for the person, to know the person, how he or she is like, all we want is to take pleasure out the person, Basically we are friends with 'benefits' with people and God.